Let the Silence Speak Louder than Your Words
India’s
first transgender Judge, Joyita Mondal proved her silence to be louder than
words. She belongs to a traditional Hindu family based at Kolkata, West Bengal.
She suffered discrimination in her growing years because of her gender identity.
Being the third and youngest child of the family, she received much pampering
and adoration of the family. But things started changing, and getting worse;
when she tried to speak about her gender identity and expressed to live her
LIFE on her own terms and individuality.
In
Grade 5, she was admitted to a boys’ school and soon became an object of
mockery for everyone just because her acceptance for her gender identity wasn’t
in consonance with those orthodox norms of society where only male and female
genders were accepted to be normal and natural; rest any other gender IDENTITY
is just an insult or a punishment imposed on a human by Nature. Nobody wanted
to befriend Joyita, nobody wanted to sit and interact with her and this made
Joyita dejected, humiliated and depressed at her core. Adding to her agony,
even her family didn’t support her. Her mother took her vulnerability as a
mental disease, consulted a Psychiatrist and she was tortured with electric
shocks. When she designed Heena on her palms during Durga Pooja like her
sisters, her hands and feet were tied and locked up in room. For next arduous
eight years, she wasn’t allowed to attend the Durga Pooja Celebration.
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Eduemeralds salutes the silence of Joyita Mondal who fought for her rights and
choices till she succeeded in getting respect for her identity and now she is
the one who performs all the rituals of the Durga Pooja for Transgender’s
Community, that too in the presence of her mother.
She
dropped out of school after struggling and being bullied by other boys, left
her home and started begging for livelihood. She resumed her studies and
completed her degree in law. In 2010 she became the first transgender person to
hold voter ID. Silently and courageously kept facing and fighting the tyranny
unleashed by the society and her own family till she became the first
transgender judge of India in the year 2017.
But
she didn’t end her journey after her personal achievements; she continued to
fight for the people of her community who were deprived of basic rights and
facilities. She pioneered Dinajpur Notun Alo Society, an NGO to fight for the
rights of transgender people. She kept standing undaunted like a rock and never
compromised with her choices in life. Her hard work came to fruition when the
Supreme Court finally declared the recognition to transgender people as the
third gender.
Joyita’s
silent battle against all odds won her everything she wanted in her life and
set an inspiration for many who want to fight back and prove their mettle. She
proved that silence can speak louder than words and silent and sincere action
of a person brings success and glory in the end.
Silence is the biggest Strength
Silence
gives intellectual intrepidity which is one of the most important prerequisites
of charting out a PERFECT action plan to succeed in life. Words often exhaust
our energy and focus which result into fickleness of mind and dilution of
purpose. Silence empowers you to resolve how to exercise the power of mind, to
have stronger faith in one’s abilities and to avoid distractions while moving
towards goals.
Silence gives you ample time to talk to
yourself and bolster your innate qualities. Conversely, boasting about self and
indulging in unnecessary arguments give birth to insatiable urges, amplified
anger and a tendency to dominate others. So, practicing silence is practicing
self-empowerment. As silence is practiced with solitude making it a winning
combination, it always makes you swift in using a variety of approaches and
umpteen strategies for task management.
Silence Helps You Harness Equipoise
Silence
helps you deal with anger and trains you to use it constructively, it allows
you to harness your poise and stay calm during stressful situations. Silence
aligns your body, mind and soul and thus, you acquire an intense insight in
whatever you do and gain control of your time, attitude and energy. Silence
keeps your thought process miles apart from distractions and clutter. Staying
silent on your plans and projects yields better results and improves your
productivity tenfold.
Silence
has ample benefits in personal relationships also; it makes you more reflective
and enhance problem-solving attitude. When you speak less about your life
situations, you focus more upon them and become persistent to improve them.
When you cultivate the habit of contemplation, you have to experience silence
and this practice promotes self-growth and creative imagination. Silence is intellectually
stimulating so refrain yourself from over-indulgence and noisy exaggerations;
when your mind is completely occupied by external noise it becomes very
difficult to think creatively, stay focused and resolve conflicts. Silence
connects you with your inner self which motivates you not to get sullied by
overactive emotions and be a victim of such emotional havoc. A calm and
peaceful person who keeps verbal disasters at bay always possesses a radiating
effect on everyone in their orbit.
Silence
is one of the strongest tools in daily communications also. Often silence is
heard more than the louder words because any negative question can be answered
with a strong silence. Silence is the best response to avoid conflicts and
arguments. Our silence sends a very powerful message if we find someone being
offensive or speaking something that we don’t agree to. When people over-explain
things and speak too much while communicating use silence to show your
disapproval instead of verbal expressions. Silence conveys a range of emotions
and messages and in most of the cases, silence speaks louder than words
especially to express authority, confidence and denial.
Let’s
learn the art of Practicing silence to farm our own life just as a seed is sown
silently, watered silently and nurtured to produce a rich harvest to celebrate
loudly.
