Be Proud of Your Identity and Love your Uniqueness

 Be Proud of Your Uniqueness and Love Your Identity

Having a role model in Life, worshipping his/her virtues and persistently strive to win the similar achievements is not wrong but nurturing an obsession to live the life of your ideals and role models by emulating them in every aspect of their life and individuality is worthless and demeans your self-worth. Getting over-influenced by any of your ideals or role models will be debilitating for your personality and eventually you will lose your identity. We all know that among the 7.9 billion of the world’s population, none is similar to any, neither the finger prints nor their faces or voice, nothing is similar. Even identical twins are not identical in every aspect; they possess different personality traits, attitudes, skills and passions. Humans are endowed with wide and beautiful diversity yet people try to blindly follow and imitate their role models. Pursuing your passion to achieve success in their field is always inspiring but copying their walk, talk, dressing style or looks will cost you your unique identity which is the most precious gift God has given to you. So learn to be proud of your identity and to love your uniqueness.

Once a teacher asked his pupils, “Children, what would you like to become when you grow up? The answers were varied, a few took names of their favorite celebrities, and others chose their favorite sports persons, scientists and political leaders. They were amused to share that becoming like them and living life like them was their sole aim and future dream. Suddenly the teacher noticed a boy who remained quiet throughout the discussion. Surprised, he went to him and asked, “Henry, you haven’t shared, what would you like to become in future?”  The innocent child replied without mincing his words, about his dream, “Sir, I just want to become Henry David Thoreau.” And the child was none other than the acclaimed American Naturalist, Essayist, poet and philosopher Henry David Thoreau.

Though the answer was unexpected but it left everyone around him stunned and clueless. Henry explained in just one single sentence what it meant to accept and admire one’s own very existence. When you love your identity you transcend the world and believe in your completeness.

You are a combination of unique traits, different values and the most amazing features of your own then why to cloak yourself in someone else’s life and personality, why we harbour greed to become somebody else and live their life and lose the profundity of our valued existence. Over-indulgence in your role model’s life and yearning to get into their skin will knock you down and destroy your self esteem. Such tendency results in the attitude of hollowness that gradually impoverishes you and ebbs away all your strengths and positivity.

Be ambitious, know your strengths and Learn From Your Mistakes to keep growing in life. Not just the outside world, identify the world within you also. You have a beautiful world inside; the world of your thoughts, your faith in your existence, the light from within, the strength of your intellect and the beauty of your emotions. This world is invisible but its power is palpable that keeps you awake and reminds you continuously- you have come to this life with a purpose, go ahead and fulfill that.

Start Writing Your Gratitude Journal

To stay happy within and be proud of you, have a habit of writing a gratitude journal. Mention everything in your diary that makes you happy and express your gratefulness to those small things of joy around you. If you wish to extend your gratitude to some special people in your life without letting them know, you can write that in your journal. This journal will make you feel very special about yourself and you will be proud of having such amazing sources of joy in your life. Human birth a priceless jewel, a rare blessing and the precious moments of life shouldn't be frittered away in emulating others' life. Your life is not meant to follow others obsessively and drift along aimlessly over admiring others. You have the power within to make people following you, just awaken that unique power that is blazing in you. 

 

Equanimity in both Pain and Pleasure

We often resist or resent the normal flow of life because we fail to understand that happiness is just an occasional episode in this delightful drama of life. We stay indulged in the conundrums of good and bad, winning and losing dilemmas. Ergo, we miss to experience the palpable vibrancy and vivaciousness in our lives. This approach trivializes the aim of our life and the essential exuberance inherent in us. So, build a Happy Life on the firm foundation of your own values, virtues and Life Skills. When you become a freaky fan of your ideal you start nurturing grandiose indulgences and imitating that person makes you a slave of their ideas, styles and way of living. 

Be the change that you want to see in the world. What you dream and expect for yourself, give it to others as well. It makes you dissipate love and positivity, you will get the same in return but if you spread anger and hatred you will receive the same.

Be proud of yourself, identify the elixir, you are bestowed upon with and radiate from within!

Mistakes are Learning Experiences to Keep You Growing in Life

What Makes You Hesitate In Admitting Your Mistakes?

“Life is too short to keep complaining about others’ mistakes and too long to keep hiding your mistakes.”

It’s very natural to make new mistakes with new challenges, while accomplishing new tasks and growing. Why to hesitate or feel embarrassed in making and admitting mistakes; many of us believe that accepting your mistakes will make you a loser or a naïve so they don’t want to admit their mistakes publicly. On the contrary, wise people never hesitate in accepting their mistakes, they focus on practicing how to maintain their self esteem even after admitting their mistakes and take pride in learning from their own mistakes as well as from others’.

Flexibility in Your Attitude

Learning from your mistakes and accepting them make you more flexible and ready to adapt. Everyone around you- friends, family, colleagues or mentors can be protective in consoling you that it wasn’t alone your fault but you know that the buck stops with you. And when you develop this attitude, you become resilient and imbibe flexibility in your life. You start believing that there is no right time to make a change, nor a wrong time to rectify a mistake. You understand that mistakes are learning experiences to keep you growing in life. People may fail despite having abundant resources and Strong Support System if their attitude cannot help them charting a course of excellence and such attitude can be developed only by admitting your mistakes and learning from them.

Helps You Develop A Stronger Self-belief

It brings a positive change in your self-belief when you learn to accept your mistakes. Everyone makes mistakes but not everyone dares to admit; once you admit, you develop an inclination how to mitigate the damage done due to that mistake and to be perfect in your next effort. You start addressing your inner critic to guide you and you grow with the self-assurance in trusting your own abilities, capacities, strengths and decisions. When the mind is anchored in the self, it lights up life, widens the opportunities and removes the Fear of Failure and ignorance. Your self-belief plays a predominant role in handling this fear positively and makes you feel accomplished even after making mistakes.

 

Your Casual Approach Can be the Biggest Deterrent

Akrasia, a Greek word that explains the concept supporting the idea of free will, kind of temporary weakness of resolve or a collapse of determination which drives you to do something you are fully aware is wrong. People with free will or casual approach take the mistakes committed by them for granted or a part of mundane activities which results into complacency and lethargy that eventually impedes their growth trajectory. Everyone who does something is liable to make mistakes but repeating the mistakes, or not improving with the mistakes can prove to be a deterrent in your growth. Cultivating a casual approach to let go your mistakes and ignoring the consequences may lead to other serious problems and when one is unfazed by such incidents, can obstruct one’s own path of success.

 

It is rightly said that “Mistakes have the power to turn you into something better than you were before.” But people with fixated mindset on ‘Mistakes means Failures’ never take them positively and fail to turn themselves into their better versions. They avoid speaking about them and instead of learning, they invest their efforts and energy to evade and hide them; which can be self-destructive in long terms.

When you accept your mistakes, you learn and grow with them; accepting them doesn’t prevent you from making more mistakes in future but it certainly teaches you how to use these stumbling stones as pathfinder to walk your journey faster.

Having the courage to admit that you have done something wrong implies that you haven’t done it deliberately and you don’t want to repeat the same again. When you have this trait in your personality, you may experience bouts of disturbance, but it will not deter you from reaching your personal fulfillment. Mistakes are just tools to grow and learn better, errors are inevitable and always happen with some benefits and it depends on us what we take away from our mistakes and how we learn not to commit the same mistake again. Let’s acknowledge our mistake rather than covering it up, denying or pushing it aside so that we can shift our perspective towards our learning process. Always ask these questions to yourself before you analyze your mistake- What went wrong? What didn’t work and why did it go wrong? This analysis will help you to see the bigger picture and help you develop resilience. Mistakes are learning experiences and evidences to prove that you are trying something coming out of your Comfort Zone.

“The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.”

-Elbert Hubbard

So stop fearing! Keep trying harder, keep making mistakes and just be Compassionate to yourself after making one!