Obstacle Can Never Be A Barrier Until You Make it One

Obstacles Are Not Barriers in Your Life

An obstacle can never be a barrier until you make it one, and the struggles, efforts and achievements in the life story of Bhavya Jain proved the same.

Bhavya Jain, 36,  son of an advocate, was a bright student throughout his school years and wanted to become a Judge. To fulfill his ambitions he chose to pursue law. He was self motivated and determined in his pursuit but suddenly things start falling apart when he was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, a mental health condition causing mood swings. He was only 25 then, and his life took an unexpected turn which was extremely agonizing for him and his family. Today, talking about mental health is not a taboo but during those days, in the year 2010 it wasn’t as easy as it seems today. Bhavya’s battle with his mental health and the pressure of his dreams left him swinging between hope and despair. He decided not to quit, not to surrender to the obstacles and passed his LLM as one among the toppers. He continued his hard work and efforts to finally clear the Delhi Judicial Service Examination after eight years, in the category of persons with disabilities. Yet, the challenges weren’t at cessation, he was declared unfit to discharge his duties by the high court administration. And it took him three more grueling years to fight and win the legal battle when the Supreme Court allowed him to join his service.

This inspiring and heart touching story of Bhavya Jain narrates more than what it comprises. The terrible years that he passed while grappling with his health issues and his aspirations weren't easy and none of us can imagine what he must have gone through in accomplishing what he had yearned for. But ultimately when he won everything, it was clear that obstacles can have a fleeting impact but aren't insurmountable. They teach you that there’s nothing wrong in feeling low when you are passing through hard times and feel incapacitated to see so many obstacles blocking your way. We may encounter health issues, financial and relationship problems, but most often these obstacles arise from our mind and during such difficult times, all we need is a shift in our thinking; the thinking that reinvigorates our strength and efforts to prove that obstacle can never be a barrier until you make it one.

 

Obstacles Are Opportunities in Disguise

An obstacle is always an opportunity in disguise, if you grab and succeed it’s an achievement if you fail it turns out to be a learning lesson. So both the ways obstacles play a very important role in our life, the fear of failure ensures only one thing and that is failure itself, so keep moving forward despite the challenges and obstructions on your way. Develop a conviction that whatever you dream, is achievable and learn to think about what you can do instead of what you cannot. Neither we can control the obstacles nor the circumstances; we can only control our attitude towards them. If you treat obstacles as opportunities to prove your potential, you will emerge as a winner so have an unshakable faith in your hard work and efforts.

Maintain Your Emotional Equilibrium

Obstacles harm our emotional health and expose our weaker and vulnerable side to the world. Our actions and decisions both get badly affected causing a smaller hurdle turn into a bigger one and we end up in misery. It’s very important to maintain your equipoise because a strong Emotional Immunity provides you the best and creative solution to all your problems. Lack of morale and composure can overpower determination and one may gravitate to one’s own fall. Be resilient to face these hurdles and make yourself a warrior, not a worrier because your worries will not change your destiny but the warrior in you can certainly do it.

Audit Your Capabilities

Knowing yourself is very important to overcome any challenge and tunnel through the obstacles. Your self-assessment can be of great help when you deal with hardships in life. Talk to yourself and analyze your strengths, weaknesses and areas for development, it will prepare you to battle hard and attain facile victory even in the worst situations. When you don’t audit your capabilities and make resolutions they peter out soon because you don’t have good propensity to come out of your Comfort Zone and breaking your own boundaries so if you wish to be prepared for challenges, audit yourself and know your abilities.

Stop Complaining Start Appreciating

Learning the art of appreciating every small thing in life empowers us to not get influenced by the vagaries of mind and emotion during hard times and galvanizes our senses to face the wrath of obstacles in our day to day life. Appreciating the good around you and being grateful to the little things in your life channelize your attention to what nurtures and sustains you in life, it makes you understand one thing very clearly no good or bad can be controlled by you but you distinguish that good is to be appreciated while the obstacles need to be dealt with an iron fist. It instills a positive mindset that eventually bolsters your morale and refrain you from having a jaundiced view of life which usually happens when frequently confronted with obstacles and hardships in life.

Smaller or bigger, obstacles are the inevitable reality of everyone’s life; we all have them, face them and rise above them. These unparalleled challenges do not determine our life; our own interpretation about them, does. You cannot always get what you like so learn to like whatever you get. The obstacles are the best teachers in your life, they teach you your real worth and train you to endure and handle your life with Perfection while passing through the fire of tough times. Obstacles fall your way to enrich your life with experiences and achievements; remember the words of Helen Keller, “Life is either a great adventure or nothing”, Helen who, despite being blind and deaf, wrote her life story with golden words while fighting and conquering the infinite challenges on her way. 

You can only hold your Happiness and persevere, you can’t change the circumstances, you need to wade through them so the moment you consider them as barriers they start consuming you and if you resolve to be resilient against them you overcome them.