How to Overcome the Fear of Failure
“Too many of us are not living our
dreams because we are living our fears.”
-Les
Brown
This
short line holds a very deep meaning and reveals most of the people’s life
stories. Yes, most often people don’t live their dreams because they can’t stop
living their fear which is a major road block in the way to success. Fear of
failure impedes the fulfillment of your DREAMS; it snatches your freedom of making
choices in your life and sneaks into your life to paralyze your determination.
Let’s read a short story to get a deeper understanding of it.
Once
a criminal was arrested and produced before the king for the judicial
proceedings. After hearing the whole case, the king offered him two Choices of
his punishment. The first choice was to be hanged till death and the second was
to enter through a dark, scary, horrifying mysterious door. The criminal chose
to die by hanging. When the scaffold was set and the criminal was brought near
the noose, he was asked for his last wish. He turned to the king and asked, “I
just want to know what’s there behind that dark, scary door.” The king laughed
and replied, “I offer everyone the same choice and it’s surprising that
everyone chooses the noose.” The criminal was now more curious to know what was
behind the door and to this the king replied, “Freedom, but to my dismay the
fear of unknown failure is more fearsome than death so nobody wants to go
through the door, they do not try to overcome this fear and choose the noose.”
We all have fear, we feel fear, and it’s an emotion, a process of experiencing something, as simple as any other vital process of our life. The most dangerous of all fears is the fear of failure because it prevents you from doing something challenging. When fear of failure overpowers us we start avoiding struggle, become complacent and don’t like to come out of our Comfort Zone. Let’s read how to fortify your attitude to fight this fear and live your dreams.
Identify Your Fears
Fears
are always baseless, irrational and illogical as they always stem from the
imagination of ‘what if’ or ‘what might be’. Sometimes fear is aroused by a
petty thought like; what others will think of me. Does it really matter, what
others think about you? Come out of this fear as it doesn’t matter What People Think about you. It’s your
life and you have to steer it the way you want to just focus on how to push
your boundaries. Embrace your mistakes with a sense of pride do whatever
frightens you. If public speaking, stage
performance or any other activity that arouses fear in you, try to engage
yourself more and more as that’s the only way to overcome your fear. It’s very
important to identify your fears, know them and challenge them that you are no
more influenced by them. Be mindful of your plan of action and perform it
without judging, criticizing or berating it.
Stop Overthinking about Future
Overthinking
instills fear and inhibitions, when you overthink, you start worrying about the
future that may or may not happen and often waste a lot of energy and time
which could be better utilized in planning and preparation of an important
task. Overthinking gives birth to fear and apprehensions and triggers a barrage
of questions which you can’t answer. Overthinkers become like a leaking tap
that can’t be turned off, one bad thought leading to another and the series
continues till the whole situation turns into a real Conundrum. Feeling anxious about your future or thinking about it
will do no good, except a bad mental health and fatigue. Shift your thought
process from tiring yourself to finding solutions and pull yourself from the
loop of overthinking. Focus on your present because future starts now, not
tomorrow.
Circumstances are not Stumbling-Stones
Many
believe that if circumstances favor them they can achieve their goal. On the
contrary, it is not the circumstances that make you a winner or a loser, but
your fearlessness that determines your destiny. You need to see these
circumstances through the prism of wisdom and awareness so as to Transform Adversities into Opportunities. Let’s never get shaken by the unwelcomed
events and circumstances in your life, they hold their own importance; they
occur to teach you the best lessons of your life and how to keep moving despite
the turbulence. Just ponder upon the quote by Samuel Smiles: “It is not ease
but effort, not facility but difficulty that makes men. There is, perhaps no
station in life in which difficulties have not be encountered and overcome
before any decided measure of Success can be achieved. Those difficulties are,
however, our best instructors, as our mistakes often form our best experiences.”
Give Your Best and Accept the Result
Let
us resolve to quell the challenges on our way and be unshakable within. When
you put in your hundred percent and do all the necessary preparation, you feel
confident and this confidence is very important to kill the fear of Failure.
Focus on the task, not on the results because thinking about the results always
makes us dubious of our abilities and takes a toll on our confidence.
Comparison peters out your zeal and motivation, seeing somebody outperforming
exacerbates your fear and anxiety so never let your confidence plummet by
comparing yourself with others. Learn to compare you with your previous
version, it will boost your morale and galvanize your efforts. Be true to
yourself, give your best and accept the result.
The
greatest treasure of human life is its fearlessness; fearlessness helps us
venturing into the unknown and heralds the advent of fame, fortune and
accomplishments. That is why until we liberate ourselves from the clutches of
fear we won’t be able to live our life at its fullest. Know your potential and
overcome your inhibitions. Have fruitful conversations with positive and
erudite people. Strength and support of your family always stands out as
beacons of hope and can shoo away any fear from your mind, spend time with the
people you feel happy and positive with, it will help you develop a never say
die attitude towards the dreams and goals of your life. Be proud of your impeccable
capabilities and be aware of your weakness that will definitely turn the
trajectory of your life and make you the Game-changer.
Great writings as always Rachanaji, very scientific and researched thoughts, if one reads it carefully an follows, one can overcome the fear of Unknown, I always feel exactly what is written here ।
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