Obstacles Are Not Barriers in Your Life
An obstacle can never be a barrier until you make it one, and the struggles, efforts and achievements in the life story of Bhavya Jain proved the same.
Bhavya
Jain, 36, son of an advocate, was a
bright student throughout his school years and wanted to become a Judge. To
fulfill his ambitions he chose to pursue law. He was self motivated and
determined in his pursuit but suddenly things start falling apart when he was
diagnosed with bipolar disorder, a mental health condition causing mood swings.
He was only 25 then, and his life took an unexpected turn which was extremely
agonizing for him and his family. Today, talking about mental health is not a
taboo but during those days, in the year 2010 it wasn’t as easy as it seems today. Bhavya’s battle with his mental health and the pressure of his dreams left him swinging between
hope and despair. He decided not to quit, not to surrender to the obstacles and passed his LLM as one among the
toppers. He continued his hard work and efforts to finally clear the Delhi
Judicial Service Examination after eight years, in the category of persons with
disabilities. Yet, the challenges weren’t at cessation, he was declared unfit
to discharge his duties by the high court administration. And it took him three
more grueling years to fight and win the legal battle when the Supreme Court allowed
him to join his service.
This inspiring and heart touching story of Bhavya Jain narrates more than what it comprises. The terrible years that he passed while grappling with his health issues and his aspirations weren't easy and none of us can imagine what he must have gone through in accomplishing what he had yearned for. But ultimately when he won everything, it was clear that obstacles can have a fleeting impact but aren't insurmountable. They teach you that there’s
nothing wrong in feeling low when you are passing through hard times and feel incapacitated to see so many obstacles blocking your way. We may encounter
health issues, financial and relationship problems, but most often these
obstacles arise from our mind and during such difficult times, all we need is a
shift in our thinking; the thinking that reinvigorates our strength and efforts to prove that obstacle can never be a barrier until you make it one.
Obstacles Are Opportunities in Disguise
An
obstacle is always an opportunity in disguise, if you grab and succeed it’s an
achievement if you fail it turns out to be a learning lesson. So both the ways
obstacles play a very important role in our life, the fear of failure ensures only one thing and that is failure itself, so keep moving forward despite the
challenges and obstructions on your way. Develop a conviction that whatever you
dream, is achievable and learn to think about what you can do instead of what
you cannot. Neither we can control the obstacles nor the circumstances; we can
only control our attitude towards them. If you treat obstacles as opportunities
to prove your potential, you will emerge as a winner so have an unshakable
faith in your hard work and efforts.
Maintain Your Emotional Equilibrium
Obstacles harm our emotional health and expose our weaker and vulnerable side
to the world. Our actions and decisions both get badly affected causing a
smaller hurdle turn into a bigger one and we end up in misery. It’s very
important to maintain your equipoise because a strong Emotional Immunity provides you the best and creative solution to
all your problems. Lack of morale and composure can overpower determination and
one may gravitate to one’s own fall. Be resilient to face these hurdles and
make yourself a warrior, not a worrier because your worries will not change
your destiny but the warrior in you can certainly do it.
Audit Your Capabilities
Knowing
yourself is very important to overcome any challenge and tunnel through the
obstacles. Your self-assessment can be of great help when you deal with
hardships in life. Talk to yourself and analyze your strengths, weaknesses and
areas for development, it will prepare you to battle hard and attain facile
victory even in the worst situations. When you don’t audit your capabilities
and make resolutions they peter out soon because you don’t have good propensity
to come out of your Comfort Zone and
breaking your own boundaries so if you wish to be prepared for challenges,
audit yourself and know your abilities.
Stop Complaining Start Appreciating
Learning the art of appreciating every small thing in life empowers us to not get
influenced by the vagaries of mind and emotion during hard times and galvanizes
our senses to face the wrath of obstacles in our day to day life. Appreciating
the good around you and being grateful to the little things in your life
channelize your attention to what nurtures and sustains you in life, it makes
you understand one thing very clearly no good or bad can be controlled by
you but you distinguish that good is to be appreciated while the obstacles need
to be dealt with an iron fist. It instills a positive mindset that eventually
bolsters your morale and refrain you from having a jaundiced view of life which
usually happens when frequently confronted with obstacles and hardships in
life.
Smaller
or bigger, obstacles are the inevitable reality of everyone’s life; we all have
them, face them and rise above them. These unparalleled challenges do not
determine our life; our own interpretation about them, does. You cannot always
get what you like so learn to like whatever you get. The obstacles are the best
teachers in your life, they teach you your real worth and train you to endure
and handle your life with Perfection while passing through the fire of tough
times. Obstacles fall your way to enrich your life with experiences and
achievements; remember the words of Helen Keller, “Life is either a great
adventure or nothing”, Helen who, despite being blind and deaf, wrote her life
story with golden words while fighting and conquering the infinite challenges
on her way.
You can only hold your Happiness and persevere, you can’t change the circumstances, you need to wade through them so the moment you consider them as barriers they start consuming you and if you resolve to be resilient against them you overcome them.