Do you confine to your comfort zone?
“If you never take a risk, you will
never know what changes you need to make.”
-Paulo
Coelho
Changes
always come with challenges and change is the only constant in life till the
time you fall in the trap of your comfort zone which is so placid and alluring that
one prefers to stagnate over growing and exploring new horizons. Have you ever
felt resistance in switching jobs, relocating different cities, taking up new
hobbies, upskilling yourself or learning new activities? If yes, nothing to
worry about it, human mind always resists change. It is we who have to decide
whether we should continue and stagnate or gear up and glow with the change.
Mostly, it has been observed that we deny the opportunities and future
prospects because we don’t want to face anything unfamiliar and challenging. We
all know that there will be no rewards without risks yet we don’t muster
courage to cross the threshold and breathe in open air. Let’s try a small
activity of self-communion- Ask yourself a question, before making a new choice
in your personal or professional life: What’s the best and what’s the worst that
can happen if I go ahead? The answer of this question in both the cases will
help you address your sense of fear and discomfort and help you build
equanimity if you choose to dismantle the layers of your comfort zone.
Let’s
read about a few practices that can help you challenge your comfort zone and how
not to get confined to it:
Find Out the Reasons of Fear
We
don’t want to step out of our comfort zone as we fear new and unknown. We love
being cooped up in the same environment for years just for the sake of feeling
safe and comfortable. We don’t want to break the boundaries of inhibitions,
stagnation and monotony despite knowing that this type of attitude can take a
toll on our professional opportunities and personal growth. Whenever you want
to make a choice for yourself; your subconscious mind repels to venture beyond
the comfort zone, so training your mind is very important here. No one wants to
choose challenging or risky options; we think what most of the people are doing
and we also start following them in a bid to play safe, sail safe. Here I would
like to quote Robert Frost’s lines:
“I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence;
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, and
I-
I took the one less travelled by,
And that has made all the difference.”
-The Road Not Taken by Robert Frost
These lines clearly
indicate how difficult it is to make choices in life, but when you make a good
and distinctive choice for yourself, you always stand out as one among the
crowd. So learn to make choices by finding out your fears and conquer them all with Your Grit and Determination.
Keep Telling Yourself, “I am Fearless”
Communication with your
body, mind and soul is very important as this works as a tool to align your
thoughts and actions in a positive manner. Speaking to yourself opens your
heart to infinite possibilities and gets yourself accustomed to whatever
emerges. Make a daily habit of self-communion and tell yourself that you are
fearless and ready to survive in any situation; you will be able to come out of
your comfort zone very easily. In this world there is nothing like Midas touch,
things never fall so easily as it seems when we look at others, one has to
invest a lot to gain something. So the first step that you take to come out of your
comfort zone is to feel fearless. If you walk fearlessly, accept new challenges
wholeheartedly; your chances of being rewarded will be higher so speak to
yourself, “I am Fearless.”
Identify Your Instincts and Impulsive Acts
When
we become subservient to our changing emotional states, we quickly catch
ourselves starting to feel insecure and anxious. We often react impulsively and
fail to follow our instincts. If you receive any negative feedback and feel
offended and develop a strong desire to react to it; just wait for a moment,
take a step back and think this situation in a different way. You are being given
one more opportunity to unleash your potential and prove yourself. When you
start listening to your instincts and identify your impulsive behaviour, you
get yourself ready for any storm or turbulence which ultimately takes you to a
point where no concept of comfort zone exists. You start flowing with everything
you have in hand and appreciate your surroundings and your life as it
unfolds.
Take Pride in Your Accomplishments
Thinking about your glorious achievements always fills you with a sense of completeness in yourself. Keep reminding yourself about your self-worth and accomplishments so that you can display grace and magnanimity in any situation and this attitude will propel you to break the boundaries of your comfort zone without much hesitance and aversion. Sometimes thinking and planning of going out of your comfort zone threatens your survival and sounds so formidable that you daren’t to deal with the decision-making. At that moment if you recall everything that you had achieved in your past; you will find that these challenges are so petty and trivial; it gives you a momentum to change the list of your growth goals and you define yourself in an exuberant way.
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Practice Exploring at Smaller Levels also
If
you find anything uncomfortable, try to do it until you become PRO at it. It
can be taking a different route to your workplace, talking to new clients,
public speaking, smaller changes in daily routine, adapting new fitness regime,
exploring new restaurants and new cuisines; just keep experimenting with all
the different approaches so as to allow your mind and body to accommodate in
different situations. It sounds little quirky but it really works!
The moment we find ourselves in the cocoon of our comfort zone, we begin to underestimate our innate ability to adapt and get familiar with new and strange things. Staying long with your comfort zone make you socially and professionally inept and you end up yourself in an impasse where nothing brings joy and satisfaction to you. It’s time to identify your strengths and leverage them to conquer your comfort zone. Let’s never forget, we learn and grow the most when we are in discomfort. The only thing we need to learn is how to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.